First time blogger here, I hope I don’t bore you all to death. This is my blog on how to plan your big day the way you want! I recently got engaged so my aim is to blog whilst planning my wedding. Why? I hear you ask. Well I guess I have a story, well who doesn’t! I will keep it simple. I need an escape route and well this is it. I struggle to find the good in anything, I suffer a lot from having panic attacks mostly during the night which keep me awake for hours. So instead of focusing on the negatives I have decided to put my energy into planning my wedding. Good or bad idea I do not know! So far it has been okish a few bumps but it is getting there, but now instead of just family and friends knowing my struggle the whole world does to but I hope I can help people. I think we underestimate how many people are suffering with a mental illness quietly and I want people to know it is ok! So why the name? Well my main reason my blog is called “The purrfect way to plan your wedding day” is mainly because of my cat Poppy. When I took my most recent panic attack which latest four hours, she was there for me, soothed and calmed me. How does a cat do that? I hear you say, well Poppy is a character and she will be a big part of my blog so if your cat friendly this is a blog for you. Well that is my intro I will be back with tips on how to enjoy your engagement your way! Bye for now.

Planning Made Easy!

Firstly I would just like to say so sorry for not blogging or keeping in touch for awhile. Life just seemed to take over with working and planning and enjoying a wee holiday! Now I am back and relaxed it’s time to get back at it and thanks to everyone who has been asking for me I appreciate it 😘

I have found the key to a stress free wedding is being prepared and organised! I am an organised freak like I have OCD when it comes to planning anything!

Tip: Take control & make decisions together as a couple.

This has to be so easy for me and I am very lucky that my husband to be wants to be very much envolved and I know I am marrying my best friend more and more each day as we want the same things so much it’s scary!

So with 2years and 3 days to go….here is where I am…..

My wedding planning book and check list is filling up fast. I would recommend a planner it is very helpful and keeps you on track with planning, paperwork and decisions. This seems to be a very focused point for us as we look at it mostly on a weekly basis! Check out magazines for hints, tips and pictures of things you may like, remeber to use pinetrest it’s FREE. But be aware magazines cost £££.

Poppy enjoys planning too 🐱

I attended my first wedding fayre which was very helpful! I would say do your research find local FREE wedding fayres to create more ideas. What I found useful was table plans, wedding rings and just generally having fun about different ideas.

Be optimistic!!

Don’t be afraid to ask regarding prices or booking appointments. This will help you to be aware of how much things cost but don’t get caught up in the moment, take a few days to research other options before deciding. 

I booked a home appointment with Smooch, which is a ring company. When I met Ali the advisor I felt so at ease and comfortable with her, so making an appointment was easy there was no sales tactics at all! Ali came to our home showed us rings and gave us prices there and then, I have an amazing engagement ring so i have to keep it involved, the first ring I tried on was a band to go under my engagement ring which was suggested by Ali. It felt like a glove, the stones matched and it looked gorg! I had found my ring and so did Blair! He was looking for something rustic and different which he found. With affordable monthly payments we are able to purchase our rings and have them paid before we get married!

No more payments after the wedding!!!

Make planning fun and exciting. Use it as an excuse to go out together as a date, go shopping look at ideas and end the day with a nice meal and some drinks. Myself and Blair done this as we had a voucher from our engagement for 2 steak meals and a bottle of wine at Marco Pierre White restaurant Indigo in Glasgow. We both were buzzing it was such a nice day together and the food 😍 AMAZING!

 I also used this opportunity to get a make up trial. You are probally thinking that’s too early! But it made my day even better as I felt great and I ticked the box of finding my make up artist who is incredible talented and so down to earth which made my decision easy and with a very small deposit I can book her for my big day.

Along the way we picked up our cake toppers as we wanted a specific one (which I am not giving away just yet) and our guest book which isn’t traditional but we are not traditional anyway. We looked around Paperchase as we both love stationery and found a book which matched our theme for only  £3.00! This allows our guests to use our photo booth and make memories for us to keep to always remember our loved ones which attended.

Don’t let the price put you off. Don’t turn your nose up at a bargain. My bridesmaid advised me that Poundland had a wedding section, so we took a look and came out with table decorations and other bits and bobs! And spent less than £5! Always look in the sales, you never know what you could find.

You will be amazed what people can do to help or offer you and all I have done is chat with people, I met a friend of a friend who has bridesmaid dresses still new in the colour I am looking for. This is more relaxing than ordering different sizes online and not knowing what they look like so I am going to keep that in mind but I think they are perfect!  

So far so good. I will keep you all posted on my next steps of planning. I hope this comes in helpful for brides to be and if anyone has anything to offer or add please feel free.

Please keep reading and following.  😘

Plan, Relax, Plan

Being your planning

Now I have booked my venue , I have 2 years to get creative and create my own magical day.

I have been really lucky myself and Blair have only visited 2 venues and fell completely in love wih the 2nd so decided to go ahead and book as it felt right. I felt the biggest pressure was finding the perfect venue now we have that everything can slowly fall into place (I hope). 

There was concern over the location of our venue as it’s quite far but we decided if we put a bus on and the people that matter will come even if they make their own way there. There are always going to be buts and ifs but remember it is you as your partners day so do what feels right for yous.

Tip of the day… book your venue on a week day, it cuts the cost down hugely.

It is very overwhelming finally setting your date so some advice, take time out today i am down the beach with Blair and Mollie planning and enjoying the sun.

How to choose your bridesmaids

How do you choose your bridesmaids? 

It’s simple really, all you need to think  is who do I want to stand by my side when I get married? Who will keep me calm? Who will go to the ends of the earth to make sure I have a good day/hen? Who are my true friends? Pick people you know that are caring and believe me you will find out when you get engaged who your real family and friends are.

I wasn’t sure how many bridesmaids I wanted as we are not planning on having a big wedding so 2 seemed like the ideal number.

How I decided…

I picked my best friend Kim, I was bridesmaid at her wedding in 2016. We have been best friends for 4 years now after just meeting on holiday. Since then we have grown into women and living our lives and so much has changed yet we are always at the end of the phone for each other.  We used to live 9hours away but now we only live 3hours away from each other so having a long distance friendship can work although I miss her like crazy!

My 2nd bridesmaid is Naomi, my fiancé sister. I don’t have any sister’s but Naomi certainly makes me feel like she is mine. She is a caring and very out going personality who I know will keep me relaxed from start to finish. Also it means so much to Blair my fiancé to have his sister a big part of the day.

Be creative when you do ask who you pick to be part of your big day. I made present boxes which was really fun as I created them from scratch.

It’s all about the prep

Now I hope there is no one who is OCD like me, I went through every single detail in my head from 3am on the eve of my engagement party. I hate to think what time I will rise when it’s the wedding! 

Easy 5 steps to a successful engagement party.

Step 1 –  Plan ahead. 

Book your party with a months notice. We panicked about finding a venue as we didn’t want to spend a huge amount of money. Budget it! Pay for the buffet/venue before the party date, that way you will not be stressing about how much money you need on the night.

Step 2 – Use gifts wisely.

We have had amazing support and family helped towards the dj and the buffet as part of their gifts to us. My aunty made our cake also, which was amazing. We appreciated that so much. You don’t need to be worrying about extra cost so enjoy the party and let family help!

I was truly lucky, my sister-in-law to be is a very taleneted hair/make up artist she was kind enough to do mine for the party and man I felt like a million dollars! I have her the ideas of the look I wanted and she really pulled it off! Again that was a help a saving of £50 I can’t thank her enough.  So let people offer to help. Also you get extra time with that special person, which I needed as I thought I would of been a nervous wreck but I was the opposite for once.

Step 3 – Start your prep a few days before.

What I mean by this is don’t be running about at the last minute getting ready! Get your hair cut the week before and do your tan 2 days before If you moisturise it will last. 

I put everything I needed into a bag so when it was time to get ready it was there.

Step 4 – Finalise everything

Get up early and go decorate your hall, that means you have time for an afternoon nap to refresh! 

Step 5 – Relax and enjoy every minute of it!

We can’t  thank our family and friends enough for a great night and they spoiled us to. I couldn’t of hoped for a better engagement I have had an amazing experience.  Love to everyone 💋

Experience Wedding Time Out

Today I got the great pleasure of getting to go lambing for the first time every at my bosses farm. From herding sheep to bringing in horses it was one of the best days of my life that I will cherish forever! This little cutie is Rodger who we got to bottle feed as he is very small but adorable 😍 think he stole all our hearts today!

Some people might cringe at the thought but I should have been born on a farm and I’m sad I wasn’t! I helped a mummy give birth to twins for the first time and seeing them eating and standing healthily warmed my heart.

Once the lambs and mums were able to go outside we took the quad down to the field and let them go to enjoy the fresh air then I got to drive the quad 😁 what a feeling! With the collie sitting on the back I felt in my element. 

On break times we got spoiled with cakes and tea.Yummy! 

My advice would be if you ever get the chance to experience this do it!!! I also got to do it with 2 amazing friends who made the day even better that is a memory that will remain for ever.

Bed time for me as I’m full of the cold and knackered but here’s hoping I sleep tonight and I am one happy person!

New toy

Bought a new toy for Poppy was only £6 at pets at home. Already she loves it and I am only in the door 5 mins!

Love giving them little treats. Companion goes both ways between an owner and a pet. They are not just an animal they are part of the family. I don’t have children so they are my furbabies. 

Everyone always jokes at my mum saying ” you getting the grandchild this weekend?” They are talking about Mollie my dog! I will do another blog on that another time though.

Bye for now 💋